Cracked Pots

A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on each end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it.  The other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master’s house.  The cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his masters house.  Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments; […]

My Identity in Christ

Because of Christ’s redemption,

I am a new creation of infinite worth.

I am deeply loved.

I am completely forgiven.

I am fully pleasing.

I am totally accepted by God.

I am absolutely complete in Christ.

When my performance reflects my new identity in Christ,

that reflection is dynamically unique.

There has never been another person like me in the history of mankind,

nor will there ever be.

God has made me an original, one of a kind,

really somebody.

(From: Search for Significance […]

By | February 11th, 2017|Categories: Healthy Living, Motivation, Personal Coaching, Recovery, Spiritual Maturity|0 Comments

2 Corinthians 4:17 … Perspective on Pain

There is a lot of pain in this world.  As believers, what are we to make of it, as we see pain touch our lives or the lives of family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, or even enemies?

It is not uncommon to hear believers say something like, “I don’t know why God is punishing me like this,” when they find out they have an illness, disappointment, trial or tribulation.  We need to be careful who we blame for such sources of pain.

God allows pain to touch our lives, but He, unlike Satan, allows pain to touch […]

By | February 8th, 2017|Categories: Healthy Living, Recovery, Scripture, Spiritual Maturity|0 Comments

Mother’s Who Can’t Love (by Dr. Susan Forward, PhD)


Common Experiences of Women With Moms Like This:
The great common denominator among women with unloving mothers is the longing for validation— to find someone who will say, “Yes, what you experienced really happened. Yes, your feelings are justified. I understand.”

… if her dominant behavior engenders in her daughter a belief in her own value and nourishes her self- respect, confidence, and safety, that mother is doing a good job, whether she’s a wonderful mom or just good enough. She’s demonstrating real love, in a tangible, reliable way, to her child.


To help you […]

Shame, Guilt, and Fear

I was speaking with a friend today about the degree and intensity with which “religious” leaders use: shame, guilt and fear to control the members of their congregations.  Christians can become conditioned to believe that shame, guilt, and fear are normal everyday feelings that must be experienced and actually CARRIED.  We carry these feelings and they are overwhelmingly weighty on our hearts and souls.  How many Christians do you know who are weighted down with this unholy trinity of:  shame, guild and fear?  There are too many Christians to count.

What are we to do?

Honestly, there are many things a Christian […]

By | January 25th, 2017|Categories: Christian Living, Recovery, Spiritual Maturity|0 Comments

Anti-depressants: Does God Approve or Not?

This is a recent message that I sent a Christian friend who knows he/she struggles with depression ….
Sweet friend.
  • Just to clarify. A person will not get “hooked” on an anti-depressant. One can get addicted to Xanax which is for anxiety.  But the purpose of an anti-depressant is to replenish God Given / God Designed endorphins in your brain. There are specific endorphins, which help regulate mood/hope/ resiliency/ etc.
  • Your (my friend) brain and endorphin levels and mine were messed up/injured by being exposed to extended periods (years actually) of having to deal with so much stress/fear/pain/neglect/physical beatings/abuse/and various traumatic […]
By | December 5th, 2016|Categories: Healthy Living, Recovery|0 Comments

Hallmarks & 5 Types of Narcissustic Moms

Mothers Who Can’t Love

by Dr  Susan Forward PhD

The Hallmark of a Narcissistic Mother –

The hallmark of all these mothers is a lack of empathy, and their intense self-centeredness blinds them to the suffering they create. They rarely step out of themselves to see things from your point of view. All they know is that they want what they want, and need what they need, and they find it difficult, if not impossible, to make the connection between their demons and the hurtful actions that come to define their relationship with you.

Five Recognizable Types of Narcissistic Mothers

By | August 8th, 2015|Categories: Counseling Women, Healthy Living, Recovery|0 Comments


Words can never adequately convey the incredible impact of our attitude toward life.  The longer I live, the more convinced I become that life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we respond to it.

I believe the single, most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude.  It is more important than my past, my education, my bankroll, my successes or failures, fame or pain, what other people think of me or say about me, my circumstances, or my position.

Attitude keeps me going or cripples my progress.  It alone rules […]

By | January 22nd, 2015|Categories: Change/Motivation, Healthy Living, Motivation, Recovery|0 Comments

Youthfulness – Psalm 103:1-5

Psalm 103:1-5

1 – Bless the LORD, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless His holy name.

2 – Bless the LORD, O my soul, and forget none of His benefits;

3 – Who pardons all your iniquities, who heals all of your diseases;

4 – Who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with loving-kindness and compassion;

5 – Who satisfies your years with good things, so that your youth is renewed like the eagle.


Verse 1 – “Bless the LORD” – exalt, praise, […]

Acceptance – A Key to Joyful Living

by Murphy Toerner

Acceptance is a wonderful phenomenon.

Acceptance is the ultimate goal for healthy processing.  Life is full of ups and downs and steady streams of change.  All human beings are organic and dynamic.   Learn to anticipate and expect change, growth, maturity, decline and ultimate physical death.  Acceptance enables you to experience Godly peace and joy along the way.  Life without an attitude of acceptance is  torturous.

Acceptance should never be misinterpreted as lost hope.  As a Christian, your hope is not to be based on circumstances.  Your hope is based on the constant and consistent presence of God the Father, […]

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