Cracked Pots

A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on each end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it.  The other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master’s house.  The cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his masters house.  Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments; […]

My Identity in Christ

Because of Christ’s redemption,

I am a new creation of infinite worth.

I am deeply loved.

I am completely forgiven.

I am fully pleasing.

I am totally accepted by God.

I am absolutely complete in Christ.

When my performance reflects my new identity in Christ,

that reflection is dynamically unique.

There has never been another person like me in the history of mankind,

nor will there ever be.

God has made me an original, one of a kind,

really somebody.

(From: Search for Significance […]

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Youthfulness – Psalm 103:1-5

Psalm 103:1-5

1 – Bless the LORD, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless His holy name.

2 – Bless the LORD, O my soul, and forget none of His benefits;

3 – Who pardons all your iniquities, who heals all of your diseases;

4 – Who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with loving-kindness and compassion;

5 – Who satisfies your years with good things, so that your youth is renewed like the eagle.


Verse 1 – “Bless the LORD” – exalt, praise, […]

Acceptance – A Key to Joyful Living

by Murphy Toerner

Acceptance is a wonderful phenomenon.

Acceptance is the ultimate goal for healthy processing.  Life is full of ups and downs and steady streams of change.  All human beings are organic and dynamic.   Learn to anticipate and expect change, growth, maturity, decline and ultimate physical death.  Acceptance enables you to experience Godly peace and joy along the way.  Life without an attitude of acceptance is  torturous.

Acceptance should never be misinterpreted as lost hope.  As a Christian, your hope is not to be based on circumstances.  Your hope is based on the constant and consistent presence of God the Father, […]

7 Myths About God – Murphy Toerner

It’s very important for Christians to understand that we regularly project our human qualities onto God.  Our ability to fully grasp who God is and how He acts is limited.  Therefore, to make sense of an all-powerful, all-knowing, and ever-present God, we perpetually define Him by using human qualities and characteristics rather than divine, super-natural ones.

The follow is a list a seven myths we persistently perpetuate about God.  To have the best personal relationship with Him, it is critical for us to systematically dispel each of these myths.

1.  Myth: God is angry with you because you keep messing […]

God’s Redemption For the Broken

Thoughts from our session together:

1.  When I think like God thinks, I’m free.

2. There’s always another side (another way of seeing something) to the same coin.

3. Did you ever think God removed you from that situation to cut down on the injuries you would have received?

4. Embrace the fact that I’m broken.  Do not deny it or reject it because God works best through broken people who know their need for Him.

5.  Look up Esther 4:14

6.  God never wastes the pain and everything is redemptive.

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Healthy vs. Abusive Relationships (Source Unknown)

Healthy Relationships:

Non-Threatening Behavior

  • Talking and acting so that your partner feels safe and comfortable doing and saying things


  • Listening to your partner non-judgmentally
  • Being emotionally affirming and understanding
  • Valuing opinions

Trust and Support

  • Supporting your partner’s goals in life
  • Respecting your partner’s right to his or her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions

Honesty and Accountability

  • Accepting responsibility for self
  • Acknowledging past use of violence and/or emotionally abusive behavior and intentionally changing those types of behaviors
  • Acknowledging infidelity and repenting of that behavior
  • Admitting being wrong when it is appropriate
  • Communicating openly and truthfully, acknowledging past abuse, seeking help for abusive relationship patterns

Responsible parenting

  • Sharing parental responsibilities
  • Being a positive, non-violent role model for children

Abusive […]

Trusting God: Truth That Sets You Free

(from Murphy Toerner)

Today’s email:


I had to go back and read my last email to you (Murphy) to regain perspective.  Feel free to copy and paste that email on your website.  It was a tough weekend, but I know God is still good regardless of my circumstances.  Pray for me to gain wisdom and strength to “let things go.”  It is a mental challenge to consistently tell myself the truth…

This was the client’s last email to me …

“As promised here is my email to you.  The best thing you have taught me is to continuously give up my illusion of control. […]

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