Cracked Pots

A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on each end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it.  The other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master’s house.  The cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his masters house.  Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments; […]

When Husbands Don’t Know What To Do Or Say

In the mid 1990’s, Mike and I had the wonderful privilege of teaching/leading a young married couple’s bible study in our home.  The group consisted of seven couples (most of whom had attended out pre-marriage class that we taught for 13 years at the Chapel on the Campus in Baton Rouge, LA.)  I’m very happy to say that all seven couples are still married today.

One of the books we read was The Silence of Adam by Dr. Larry Crabb.  Overall, the book was pretty good.  One topic that stood out to me was the idea that husbands are usually […]

By | July 14th, 2015|Categories: Counseling Men, Counseling Women, Marriage and Family|0 Comments

No Kid Leaves Home “Done”

I’m in the middle of a developmental stage. Some of you would never think that at 55+ I’d be navigating through a developmental stage. This is a term used for babies and kids in Pre-K through 8th grade, isn’t it?

No, the truth is all of us navigate through a variety of stages throughout our lifetimes. My current one falls under the heading, “Role of Parent Quickly Changes as Son Launches.” You see, my older son recently graduated from LSU and he moved on to pursue his career and fulfill a life-long dream. On one hand, as a parent I am […]

By | October 17th, 2013|Categories: Change/Motivation, Marriage and Family, Parenting|0 Comments

Healthy vs. Abusive Relationships (Source Unknown)

Healthy Relationships:

Non-Threatening Behavior

  • Talking and acting so that your partner feels safe and comfortable doing and saying things

Respect

  • Listening to your partner non-judgmentally
  • Being emotionally affirming and understanding
  • Valuing opinions

Trust and Support

  • Supporting your partner’s goals in life
  • Respecting your partner’s right to his or her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions

Honesty and Accountability

  • Accepting responsibility for self
  • Acknowledging past use of violence and/or emotionally abusive behavior and intentionally changing those types of behaviors
  • Acknowledging infidelity and repenting of that behavior
  • Admitting being wrong when it is appropriate
  • Communicating openly and truthfully, acknowledging past abuse, seeking help for abusive relationship patterns

Responsible parenting

  • Sharing parental responsibilities
  • Being a positive, non-violent role model for children

Abusive […]

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