Forgiveness can be accomplished when:

  • The offender completely and thoroughly owns his/her actions, which caused the injury or offense.
  • The offender acknowledges the consequences of their actions.
  • The offender demonstrates a sincerity of heart and a sadness or regret over having injured the other person.
  • The offender conveys how they will change their future behavior.  They must be intentional about not hurting the offended person again in the same way.  There must be a change in behavior.

Forgiveness can be accomplished, but the final act of forgiving rests in the hands of the offended person.

(Murphy Toerner)